3 THINGS YOU SHOULD DO AS SOON AS YOU FIND OUT YOUR SPOUSE WANTS A DIVORCE
CHANGE YOUR PASSWORDS
And I mean all of them! Bank accounts, Facebook, emails, twitter, Linkedin, Amazon (and all other online shopping sites), online credit card sites and apps. Don’t take a chance that your spouse knows your passwords, even if you think they don’t. If you’ve “saved” your passwords to make life easier – change the password and DON’T save them.
CHANGE THE WAY YOU USE SOCIAL MEDIA
PART 1: CHANGE YOUR FACEBOOK PRIVACY SETTINGS
If your Facebook page is public, make it private. Now is the time to cut down and cut out – go through your list of “friends” on Facebook. Some people you may want to simply “unfriend”. Others you may not want to alert to the fact that you no longer trust the or consider them a friend – rather than the drastic step of “unfriending” them, you can simply create a new group and create privacy settings for that group that basically lets them see nothing or next to nothing on your page. Don’t let anyone post to your page without reviewing their post first.
PART 2: WATCH WHAT YOU POST
No photos of your new boyfriend or girlfriend. No posts of you and your friends with your “red cups”, partying, clubbing, etc. Now is not the time to boast about your latest vacation or new car! Keep the insults to yourself. No “check-ins” at restaurants, hotels, airports (you’d be surprised!) No drinking and tweeting (closely related to the “no drinking and texting” and its cousin, “no drinking and calling”).
SEEK THE ADVICE OF A GOOD ATTORNEY
Many attorneys offer a free initial consult. Take advantage of that. A good attorney can help you safeguard your assets, help you plan for a separation or divorce and advise you what documents you are going to need (tax returns, insurance policies, pay stubs, credit card statements, bank statements to name a few). Don’t stick your head in the sand. If you suspect your spouse is cheating or otherwise ready to leave, arm yourself with knowledge and get ready.
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